so i looked at my plugs today and the tips were white....is that normal?and the i searched and searched and found that .42-.44 was a good gap for n/a.
the plugs were at .53-.55!!!!...........so i regapped them to .44 and now my car doesnt feel like it pulls as hard then before...is it safe to go back to a .55 gap?

Well how long did you drive the car with the .44 gap?

You sould drive it for a bit and let the ecu catch up. Plus you might want to check your timing again and see how it looks.